Bilkan Kilicer, BACP

Bilkan Kilicer is a counsellor with six years of experience and registration with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). She describes herself as an integrative psychodynamic counsellor who pays attention to both present life issues and the ways past experiences continue to affect people today.

Bilkan knows it can feel hard to ask for help after painful events. She says she brings warmth, empathy and patience to sessions. Her aim is to create a place where people can move at a pace that feels manageable.

She has a particular interest in supporting people who have experienced trauma. In practice she listens closely, reflects back what she hears and helps people notice patterns that might be keeping them stuck. Conversations are paced to the individual and focused on understanding what is happening now as well as where those feelings may come from.

Her approach is collaborative. She helps people get to know themselves more, clarify what they want to change and try out different ways of responding. This can include learning practical skills to manage strong feelings as well as looking at deeper relationship patterns.

Bilkan works with a wide range of concerns including stress, anxiety, depression, relationship matters, grief, parenting strain and midlife changes. She also lists areas such as self-esteem, ADHD, and compassion fatigue among her focuses. Her work aims to help people find clearer direction and more choice in their everyday lives.

How her approaches translate to online work

Bilkan blends practical and reflective methods such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Attachment-Based Therapy. CBT focuses on identifying unhelpful thinking and testing new behaviours to reduce anxiety and improve mood. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at relationship patterns and emotional bonds to help people understand how they connect with others and respond in close relationships.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work itself. Bilkan treats this as a collaborative process and will discuss goals, preferences and how different methods might fit your situation. Together you can try approaches and adjust as needed rather than committing to a single pathway from the start.

If you are considering online therapy, confirm the current session options before booking as formats are not specified here. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow for check-ins that suit your routine. It can also allow sessions to be shorter or quieter when that helps, and makes it possible to work with a therapist who is in a different location or time zone. Registered or accredited professionals can use online sessions to offer the same reflective conversation and practical tools as in-person therapy.