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Mary Shands

Mary Shands, LPC

Therapist · Texas · 12+ years of experience

Compassionate counselor with practical strategies

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  • Experienced LPC
  • Practical tools
  • Focus on midlife

About Mary

Mary Shands is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with 12 years of clinical experience and licenses in Missouri and Texas. She has worked in schools, veterans services, substance abuse treatment, an insurance setting, and a sexual offender treatment program. Mary listens closely and brings an energetic, caring presence to sessions.

Her background includes helping people with trauma, depression, anxiety, addictions, and relationship struggles. She has supported parents around child behavior and school-related concerns. Mary also has experience with adoption-related separation issues and emotional abuse recovery.

In session she uses clear, practical approaches. That can mean looking at unhelpful thoughts and behavior patterns, trying structured problem-solving, or focusing on personal values and meaning. Conversations aim to be direct and compassionate, with simple strategies people can try between meetings.

Mary also offers support for grief, intimacy concerns, sleeping and eating issues, anger, self-esteem, ADHD, and career or life transitions. First responder stress, compassion fatigue, and codependency are other areas she can address. She adapts what she does to each person’s needs and goals.

She has presented trainings and educational talks in community and professional settings. Mary works in Texas and accepts clients internationally through the platform. To begin, readers are asked to use the Start Therapy button and complete a short matching questionnaire.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyAddictionsRelationship issuesFamily conflictsDepression

Also works with

LGBTTrauma and abuseGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAvoidant personalityBody imageCancerCodependencyControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFirst responder issuesForgivenessHIV / AIDSHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPersonality disordersPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Self-loveSexual assault and abuseSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTraumatic brain injuryWomen's issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

12+ years

Credentials

Missouri, Texas

Languages

English

How Mary’s Approaches Work Online

Attachment-based work focuses on how past relationships shape current bonds and trust. It helps people who struggle with closeness, abandonment fears, or repeating painful patterns in relationships.

Client-centered therapy centers the conversation on the person’s experience and goals. The therapist listens without judgment and supports the person in finding their own answers and growing at their pace.

Choosing an approach is a collaborative process. Mary will talk with each person about goals, past efforts, and preferences. Together they decide which ideas to try and adjust the plan over time based on what helps.

If you prefer online sessions, confirm the available formats before booking since the biography did not list specific options. Online work can make it easier to fit appointments into a busy day, allow for shorter check-ins when needed, and avoid travel time. It also lets conversations continue when life or location changes, and therapists can guide mindfulness exercises, thought records, and relational work through remote meetings.

Licensed professionals aim to match therapy methods to what matters most to the person, and the early sessions are often about finding that fit rather than committing to one single style.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Mary commonly address?

She helps people with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, addictions, relationship and parenting concerns, plus issues like grief, intimacy, eating and sleeping problems.

How would you describe her therapeutic style?

Her style is warm and direct. She uses listening, structured problem-solving, and practical strategies people can use between sessions.

What is her professional background?

Mary has 12 years of experience working in schools, veterans services, substance abuse treatment, an insurance setting, and a sexual offender program.

Where is she licensed and based?

She is a Licensed Professional Counselor with licenses in Missouri and Texas and practices from Texas.

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English for domestic and international clients.

What session formats are available?

The original biography did not list specific session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.

How are cost and scheduling handled?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

Use the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to the therapist's availability.

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