Thomas "Tom" Relevitch, BACP

Thomas "Tom" Relevitch is a counsellor with BACP registration and ten years of professional experience. He focuses on stress, anxiety, relationship concerns, LGBT issues and life changes, including midlife crisis. Tom aims to make the first step easier by offering a calm, non-judgemental space where people can speak and be heard.

Tom’s approach centres on listening and helping people find their own solutions. He draws on client-centred work to follow what matters most to each person. He also uses psychodynamic ideas to look at patterns that repeat over time. Solution-focused techniques help set small, achievable goals between sessions.

People come to him with many concerns, such as loneliness, feelings of emptiness, struggles with attachment or abandonment, and difficulties around communication or intimacy. He also works with issues linked to polyamory, BDSM and kink, and multicultural stressors. Tom supports people through separation, guilt, infidelity and questions about life purpose.

Sessions are run during his main availability, which is typically between 12 noon and 5 pm GMT from Monday to Thursday. He accepts international clients and works in English. The practice uses a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time, and fees vary depending on location and the service chosen.

Tom aims to build a clear plan with each person. That plan can include short-term coaching-style steps or deeper work on long-standing patterns. He encourages questions before starting so people know what to expect and can decide if he feels like the right fit.

How his approaches translate to online counselling

Client-centred work focuses on following what matters to the person in front of him. That means listening carefully, reflecting back what he hears and adjusting the pace to match individual needs. It helps when someone needs space to be understood and to make decisions about change.

Psychodynamic work looks at recurring patterns and the history behind them. In practice this can mean gently naming themes that show up again and again, and thinking about how earlier relationships influence present choices. This approach is useful for people who want to understand why they repeat the same problems.

Solution-focused methods concentrate on small, practical steps and clear goals. Sessions can include setting simple tasks to try between meetings and reviewing what helps. This suits people who want tangible changes in a shorter timeframe.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss options and decide together with the client which mix of listening, exploring history and goal-setting fits best. That decision is reviewed over time as needs and aims evolve.

The biography does not list specific session formats, so please confirm available options before booking. Online counselling can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow shorter check-ins when needed. It also lets people use different ways of working - detailed discussion, reflective thinking or practical coaching - depending on what they want to achieve.